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ladyfoxxx ([personal profile] ladyfoxxx) wrote2013-03-27 05:35 pm

MJ MOTHERFUCKERS!

Okay, so Imma try to write a con report for my very first ever con experience. I will try to be brief (cue hysterical laughter).

Thursday
So I'll skip the part where I flew 20 hours from Sydney to New York and crashed overnight at a hotel and start with meeting up with [livejournal.com profile] mistresscurvy and [livejournal.com profile] olivia_circe at the Amtrak Station and taking the train to Boston with them. Hilariously, [livejournal.com profile] olivia_circe and I spotted each other at the station while we were waiting for [livejournal.com profile] mistresscurvy and while we were both fairly sure we'd identified a fellow fangirl, we were BOTH too shy to approach.

FANGIRL RADAR. It works.

The train was crowded so we all ended up seated next to business dudes and passed the time tweeting at each other about how the HELL did the dude next to [livejournal.com profile] olivia_circe managed to have conference calls the ENTIRE JOURNEY?

We disembarked at South Station, shlepped our gear to the MJ Hotel (very classy!) and divided off to find our rooms. After dumping my gear I followed the sound of giggles two doors down from my room to find a roomful of fangirls! Which included one [livejournal.com profile] mizubyte who jumped me in the doorway and I'm pretty sure we put on a pretty disgusting display for all gathered. All gathered would be: [livejournal.com profile] cee_m, [livejournal.com profile] rivers_bend, [livejournal.com profile] solar_cat, [livejournal.com profile] starsparkle333 and... I'm not sure who else... it was DAYS AGO now! Anyway, Miz and I disappeared for a while for Reasons and resurfaced to head downstairs for registration.

First thoughts on Registration? OMG SO MANY FANGIRLS. I got hugs from [livejournal.com profile] brooklinegirl and [livejournal.com profile] mrsronweasley and dug through my awesome reg packet (dogtags! stickers! wristbands!) and chatted with people until the sheer numbers got overwhelming and we gathered a small group to go grab some dinner. Our group ended up being big enough that we got denied from two venues before we gave up and split off into a mini-group ([livejournal.com profile] cee_m, [livejournal.com profile] rivers_bend, [livejournal.com profile] a_terri_beth, [livejournal.com profile] starsparkle333, [livejournal.com profile] zeenell, [livejournal.com profile] corbae and oh god I can't remember the rest...) for some delicious mexican. Half the table were talking hockey, while the other half talked 1D, and I remember having to explain who Nick Grimshaw was to Miz and why the top pairing in the fandom features a dude who is not in the band. Also I'm pretty sure I had a massive case of food envy over [livejournal.com profile] starsparkle333's enchiladas.

We wandered back to the hotel, grabbing some booze on the way and re-encountering a lot of fangirls in the liquor store (colour me NOT surprised) and went back to pile into our hotel room with [livejournal.com profile] a_terri_beth, [livejournal.com profile] solarcat, [livejournal.com profile] kinetikatrue and [livejournal.com profile] cee_m, (until she was called away to have 1D feels) to watch hockey vids and talk about how Patrick Kane is not actually a Real Person. And [livejournal.com profile] kinetikatrue slept on our fainting couch for the night because she was temporarily homeless.

Friday
Okay, Friday! First official con day! We didn't manage to get out of bed in time for the official welcome, which I'm kind of bummed I missed, but we got coffee and fuel and set off to some Panels! The Slash Pictionary panel was completely hilarious. In what other circumstance can someone grab a yellow marker and draw a circle and the entire room knows they mean Lord of the Rings? (At which point I started shouting "cock ring! cock ring!" sadly I wasn't correct). Though we did realise that 5 stick figures + a music note = 1 Direction. (In fact, after a while Miz and I just started shouting "One Direction!" and we were right more often than we were wrong.) And a stick figure with a gun and a martini = 007. All in all, good wholesome fun.

We stayed in the same room for the Avengers panel, which was plenty fun and had a lot of great comment about the various tropes, characterisations and pairings in the fandom. Not to mention SCIENCE BROS! BRUCE BANNER FEELS! Why is there no Black Widow movie yet? Tony Stark's manpain! Phil Coulson lives! The Shield pilot is coming soon! How is there a separation between general Avengers fandom and Thor fandom and why? How the Marvel movies are a good example of the films linking to each other (as opposed to the X-men films who have kind of failed at this in my opinion).

I stuck around for the When >2 is <3 poly panel (because it was originally my idea, but we had to orphan the panel) though it was a HARD CALL because I really wanted to go to [livejournal.com profile] podklb's challenges panel *shakes fist at schedule gods* WHYYYYYY. (Miz went to the Challenges panel and said it was GREAT.) Anyway, the Poly panel was in good hands with [livejournal.com profile] cee_m and [livejournal.com profile] rivers_bend and the discussion was quite in depth and interesting. I've not been to a con before, but reports from others who have have indicated that panels of this kind tend to happen at most cons and it shows how far fandom has come that we've gone from "why isn't there more threesome/poly fic?" to "why isn't there more of ________ type of threesome/poly fic?" It's nice that it's become common enough that people can now be all like "but I want fic where it's poly but one of them is asexual/lonely/a monk etc!" Anyway, glad I stuck around for this one.

We headed off to lunch after that (delicious italian with [livejournal.com profile] anoneknewmoose and [livejournal.com profile] monkey_pie and Miz of course, and kind of lingered so we managed to miss the next round of panels BUT we were back in time for the knotting panel which was HILARIOUS. I particularly loved repeated references to characters to "CRY ON IT" and I was very proud when [livejournal.com profile] littlemousling singlehandedly decided to bring knotting to 1D fandom (and I can attest that she totally followed through on that promise).

The knotting panel wrapped up the panels for Friday (there is a play on words joke here that I'm totally not thinking of right now) then everyone disbanded to their rooms to gussy up for the vid show and dance party. The vid show was AWESOME. I didn't even know what half the vids source materials was, but it DIDN'T MATTER. I was particularly in love with Starships and Raise Your Glass and the Neville Longbottom video made pretty much half the room cry (it was SO GOOD, and I don't even know much about Harry Potter, yo.)

The dance party was AWESOME. And not just because I was tipsy enough to actually talk to a few of the folks I'd been too shy to talk to so far. There was dancing! And singing! And a large group of fangirls on the dancefloor singing "My Songs Know What You Did In The Dark" at the top of their lungs. And lots of bouncing to Planetary GO! And I faced off with [livejournal.com profile] janetcarter for a particularly vehement rap battle because apparently we both know all the words to House of Pain's Jump Around and we just HAD to battle it out. HIGHLIGHT OF THE NIGHT!

Then, about fifteen minutes before the dance party was due to finish...


(Leaving space here for anyone who doesn't want to read the MCR part)



So [livejournal.com profile] brooklinegirl came and found me, took my hand and led me off the dancefloor and told me "MCR have just broken up" and I just. I didn't comprehend it. I was in shock. (At the time I remember T apologising for telling me, and I remember telling her "don't apologise, this is how I'm going to remember it now, being told by a friend, not just reading it off a screen"). We held hands and went to find [livejournal.com profile] mrsronweasley and Miz and... well, you could SEE the news hit. It's times like this that I'm not sure if technology is our friend. The entire dance party knew within minutes and... I think I saw in several other con reports it was described as "it looked like someone had died". And in a way, something HAD died, and I can't decide if it was the best or the worst thing that it happened at THAT moment. Because ugh, WHY in the middle of MJ? But at the same time, at least we were all together! So IDK, the rest is a bit of a blur, a lot of hugs and hand holding and I read the damn one paragraph from Gerard that was just SO not enough and. Yeah. I didn't cry, but I hugged a lot of crying fangirls and just didn't GET it.

So needless to say there were no all-night crazy Bandom room parties after the dance party. They were more like mourning parties. I know at least two fangirls who just went NO, NOT DEALING WITH THIS NOW and went to parties for their other fandoms, which was a totally understandable decision. Miz and I dropped by [livejournal.com profile] anoneknewmoose's room and talked it out with [livejournal.com profile] fabu, [livejournal.com profile] ohnoktcsk, [livejournal.com profile] girlpearl, [livejournal.com profile] almostblue and some others. We then stopped by [livejournal.com profile] mistresscurvy's room and made a prayer circle with [livejournal.com profile] amazonziti, [livejournal.com profile] pennycann, [livejournal.com profile] olivia_circe, [livejournal.com profile] jezrana, [livejournal.com profile] philosiraptors, [livejournal.com profile] bessyboo and [livejournal.com profile] cee_m. When it started to get late and we were getting too loud Miz and I kidnapped [livejournal.com profile] cee_m and [livejournal.com profile] bessyboo and retired to our room to talk shit and watch Miracle (a hockey movie Miz knows by heart). It was a nice change of pace. I slept hard that night and I was glad I had my girl to hang onto.

Saturday
Needless to say, there was a bit of a mood change on Saturday. We were all a bit hungover and sad. A bunch of us went for diner breakfast of awesome where I got the pancakes I've been craving (America knows how to do pancakes, yo.) We got back to the MJ Hotel in time for the Teen Wolf panel, which was highly entertaining and exactly what I needed. Nothing quite like talking about the ridiculousness of Derek Hale and the adorableness of Stiles and how the show completely doesn't value realism. Because wow, that is NOT how lacrosse and asthma work, and you're gonna get wifi in a burnt-out house? For realsies? Hilarious panel with totally nothing to do with Bandom OF MY HEART.

I stuck around for the Fall Out Boy panel, which was super sweet and fun and full of awesome tidbits about our favourite boys. A lot of favourite FOB lyrics, memories and moments were shared and I remember being struck by just how grateful I am for the timing of the FOB comeback. It's really great to have these guys out there making NEW stuff for us to consume and giving interviews and playing shows and all the rest. Pete truly is the grandaddy of Bandom and it's like he KNEW WE NEEDED HIM.

So after a quick run out to get food Miz and I had to get ORGANISED, because after the foraging break we had to run TWO PANELS back to back. The first, our baby, that we had been looking forward to: Fandom Osmosis: All The Stuff You Know About The Fandoms You Aren't Even In seemed to go pretty well! We ran a 10-question pub-style game of trivia to start, which I think helped to prove just how much people know about fandoms they are not in, because most teams did SUPER well. Though I will laugh forever at the corner of the room who just stared at me blankly at the "who is Nick Grimshaw?" question. BRB LAUGHING FOREVER. We then shared a bunch of random facts people knew about other fandoms, and got people actually IN that fandom to confirm/deny/explain them. We also discussed at what point people consider themselves to be IN a fandom, with answers ranging from "when I write/create", to "when I start to have feelings", to "the moment I start reading". (All totally valid, BTW) Seemed to be a success!

Our next panel I will admit I was kind of concerned about, the somewhat prophetically named "RPF: When the Canon Breaks Your Heart" panel. It was a pretty small turnout, and I'm sure a lot of that was due to the MCR breakup, and Bandom folks just not being ready to talk about it yet (which I absolutely understand).

It ended up being quite an intimate panel where almost everyone spoke at some point. There were enough non-bandom folks (though they were still in the minority) that we managed to keep the discussion about how to deal with shitty things happening in RPF in general instead of just talking about the breakup. We actually wound up talking about Mikeygate more than the breakup, and we needed to explain it to some people who weren't sure what it was which I found kind of an interesting experience. I'll admit I was worried that this panel was going to end up being a huge bummer, but it wasn't and I think the folks who did come along really got something out of it.

I will say this though: running two panels back to back is EXHAUSTING. I went along to the Crossing The Streams: Fandom and the non-Fannish panel and while it was super interesting, I contributed absolutely nothing because I was pretty much braindead. Some really great discussion about fandom identity and the reasons people are or aren't open about it were had.

After that panel, I was pretty much asleep on my feet, so I left Miz to go join the hockey crowd at the bar and went to crash in our hotel room. Except I couldn't actually sleep. I was brain-tired, but not body-tired and I just felt… weird. I remember tweeting something about feeling out-of-orbit and [livejournal.com profile] podklb tweeted back at me something similar and she ended coming up and hanging out with me and we compared notes on what she termed "Con drop". As in, you're at a con being SUPER social, then it ends and you're suddenly ALONE and I was like WOW that is EXACTLY how I am feeling. We ate grapes and talked stuff out and had some hugs and I'm really glad I got to spend some one-on-one time with klb, she's pretty awesome.

So anyway, I wasn't feeling up to partying at any of the various fandom-specific room parties, and though I knew that [livejournal.com profile] akamine_chan, [livejournal.com profile] lucifuge_5 and [livejournal.com profile] rubytuesday5681 were doing a MCR-video party I was so not ready for that yet, so I was kind of at a loose end (Miz had homework to do if you can believe that!). In the end I wound up visiting random rooms, which ended up being a good decision! I hung out with the 1D girls ([livejournal.com profile] rivers_bend, [livejournal.com profile] cee_m, [livejournal.com profile] littlemousling, [livejournal.com profile] eloiserummaging and [livejournal.com profile] starsparkle333) and they showed me Harry's extra nipples and talked about how adorable Nick Grimshaw is (he is pretty adorable, LBR). Then I went door knocking on [livejournal.com profile] jezrana's door and hung out with her and [livejournal.com profile] ohnoktcsk, [livejournal.com profile] olivia_circe and [livejournal.com profile] fairestcat and we compared notes on the con, and I ran them through the Fandom Osmosis trivia questions since they weren't able to make the panel for various reasons. When it started to get late, we let Jez and Co have their room back and retired for hangs with [livejournal.com profile] ohnoktcsk's roommates [livejournal.com profile] rivers_bend, [livejournal.com profile] cee_m and [livejournal.com profile] solarcat and it really started to feel like a sleepover at this point, with us comparing notes on boy kissing, past relationships and other ridiculousness that you end up talking about when most of the room is horizontal. Pretty sure [livejournal.com profile] ohnoktcsk and I share a brain, BTW.

Sunday
Sunday, Sunday. Last day. Many goodbyes were said. Miz and I headed down to the con suite early-ish to take advantage of 1. coffee and 2. what would be our last chance to see a bunch of fangirls. I got a LOT of hugs in this morning. I also finally got to have proper chats with [livejournal.com profile] shiningartifact and [livejournal.com profile] mrsronweasley after not really seeing that much of them this weekend. It was kind of sad and weird and overwhelming because there were so many people I wanted to see, and while I feel like I DID get to see everyone I didn't necessarily get to really spend time with everyone I wanted to. I'm getting feedback from a lot of regular con-goers that this is a really common thing, BTW.

Anyway, to all the people I got to hang out with, and the ones I only got to see briefly, this is me sending you the most epic heart-hands. I would count this experience as such a success, even if the second half of it was heavily and specifically coloured by real life events we had no control over. Guys, I'm so glad I got to meet you, talk to you, hug you, laugh with you. To the two people who told me "I decided to come to MJ because I knew you were going" MY HEART you guys, and all my love.

I suppose it's kind of fitting for me to be having so many feelings about this con, and that's okay, because fangirls are all about feelings. I LOVE YOU GUYS. <3
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[personal profile] greedy_dancer 2013-03-28 11:15 am (UTC)(link)
Awesome report, thank you! :D The panels sound amazing, as does the vid show (well, you know) and so many awesome fangirls in one place!!

I wish I could have been there SO BAD - I was mildly jealous before but when the MCR news broke it pretty much turned into heartbreak because all I wanted was being with people who KNEW how it felt, and hugs and not having to explain to Muggles why I was having such a rough weekend /o\ And at the same time, I was both horrified at the timing and bummed for you guys that it might ruin your con - but apparently it didn't, so YAY - but also strangely comforted to know that, yeah, somewhere in the world the fangirl crying and hugging was happening and it was like you guys were our ambassadors for the fandom at an International MCR Grieving Summit, hugging in all our name or something.

But really what I get from this is a renewed knowledge that I need to get myself to a fan con ASAP! And hopefully see you there! :D
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[identity profile] ladyfoxxx.livejournal.com 2013-03-28 08:19 pm (UTC)(link)
I actually had you in mind when I was thinking "MUST WRITE CON REPORT" because I know you really wanted to be there.

I don't know how it must have been for you to get the news about MCR on your own. I'm glad we were around in a virtual way to support you, though I wish I could have given you real hugs.

If they ever run a con in the london area I am so there! I'm not sure how I'd go with another US one, but never say never. :D
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[personal profile] greedy_dancer 2013-03-28 08:31 pm (UTC)(link)
Aw that is so sweet <3333

It was... not good. I woke up late on Sat thinking "hey maybe I got podfic feedback" because I'd posted some the night before (ha! I never learn :p) and instead there was a text message from [livejournal.com profile] castalie asking if I'd seen the news about MCR and if I was okay. I pretty much started crying there and then, before I could even open the computer :( I think I came online at a weird time, too, missing both the Americans who'd gone to sleep and the Europeans who'd gotten the news waking up, so for a little while it felt a bit lonely, before the US started coming online again. OH WELL. It's not like there is a convenient time for your band to break up, anyway.

NEVER SAY NEVER! :D Making it to Bitchin Party or MJ is on my bucket list, but I would SO BE THERE for a London con, absolutely! I've actually been entertaining myself with thoughts of a London vacation when the thesis madness is over hahaha meaning never.

*hugs*
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[identity profile] ladyfoxxx.livejournal.com 2013-03-28 08:36 pm (UTC)(link)
COOOOOME TO LONDONNNNNNN WE CAN HAAAANGGG
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[personal profile] greedy_dancer 2013-03-28 08:37 pm (UTC)(link)
SOMETIME NEXT YEAR I SWEAR but probably not before that /o\